CHANGE.

A friend of mine put up this post on facebook;

"The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others".

Now, this on its own is a powerful message. When i came across this post on my friend's page, i was like "Oh my God. This is what i should tell myself over and over again". Many of us want people to respect us, treat us as special, make us feel important, but we do not treat ourselves the way we want to be treated. Imagine me, walking down the road, chewing gum like a low class sex-hawker, talking carelessly, while people stare at me with disgust. I guess you can tell the way people around would relate with me. We must be able to settle down and change certain negative things in our lives.

One thing i want to change is my environment. In a leadership class, we were made to understand that when you stay in a particular place for too long, you begin to behave the way people around you behave. And i can say, to a large extent, that this is true. When you dwell in the midst of people who do nothing but gossip, somehow you'll find yourself doing same. For majority, what they need is to move, and get into a place where they can mingle with the right kind of people.

Another very important aspect i want to handle is the kind of friends i keep. Oh dear, this might sound offensive, but if you are not adding any value to my life, why are we still hanging out? I desire to grow in life, and one way to do that is to meet the right kind of people and associate with them. Dear, it's not pride. No. It's called focus. What will i be doing with someone who wants to sit down all day and look for what is wrong with the world, when i can mix with a few people who want to make a difference in their world? Please, if that person close to you isn't doing you any good, you just have to do something before you wake up one morning only to find out that you haven't achieved anything in life.

Spending is also a VERY important issue that must be taken seriously. If you don't learn to discipline yourself financially, you will end up destroying your future with your own hands. I am also talking to myself here because i have been guilty. We should learn to set our priorities straight. All things are good, but until you have the cash to get that thing for yourself, don't run into debts. I have seen how  running into debt can ruin ones life, take away ones peace, and leave one useless. It's best not to have, than to have everything and not have peace.

I'll leave you with this words; the one person that can make that needed change in your life is not far off. That person is YOU. All you need is the right attitude.

Keep aiming for greater heights.

Yours truly,

VIV!!!!!